or the carrot on a stick
"A skeleton key (also known as a passkey) is a type of master key in which the serrated edge has been filed down so that it can open numerous locks, The term derives from the fact that the key has been reduced to its essential parts." wikipedia.org
Guilt, shame and stress permeates our society like a curse or lethal disease. It seems like everyone is affected, but we are all in different stages of the disease. We always try to run faster, do better, be better and improve our lives and selves in all kinds of ways. This race is so out of control, so freaking damned, that many of us actually fall sick, live lives of quiet desperation and fear, and sometimes even die because of it. This is serious, you guys.
And in a way, the more loving you are, the harder this curse hits you, because you want so bad to be the best you can be! For you own sake, of course, but even more so for the other people, for the world! Right?!
I see the picture of the proverbial donkey with a carrot on a string in front of it. It's so obsessed with reaching that carrot, that it gallops away, froth in mouth, not seeing a thing on its way, all to reach that carrot; the goal; the improved and good enough ME!
We always feel we SHOULD do better
Be more with our children.
At least have higher quality when we are.
Be more present.
Savor the now.
Spend more time in nature.
Fight for the animals.
Be a vegetarian.
Be a vegan.
Be more self-aware.
Shine our lights.
Use our talents.
Be kinder to everybody.
See our parents more.
Take better care of our spouse.
Take better care of ourselves.
Develop our minds.
Expand our lives.
You follow my drift. I could write a million more things without even exaggerating, and the things we feel we should do better are not only about the big things like improving our lives, but every darn thing from how we brush our teeth in the morning to how we drive our car to at what time we go to bed in the evening. Every thing I do, say and think, could actually – and SHOULD – be done in a better way.
And here's the thing: We always feel we should do something more! Be something better! Should! We SHOULD do and be...just another place. Can you see it, guys?
No matter how hard we run, how fast we learn, no matter how many we comfort, heal, help or how much we improve ourselves, we will never, ever be satisfied that we are enough!!! Because there are *duh* still like 999 999 other things we still aren't or haven't reached yet.
So do you hear me?
Do we agree that we will never get there? Where we *should* be?
Where we are happy and satisfied that we have accomplished being that better and improved me? Here's the curse that is pulsating through us all, the prairie-rage of a fire that takes no prisoners; There is something in our society that tells us that
WE SHOULD BE SOMETHING THAT WE ARE NOT AND THAT WE CAN NEVER, EVER BE!!
And here's the chilling reality: We believe that voice!
We embody, fulfill and enact that very voice with every step we take, every move we make. We simply analyze, see and judge ourselves every hour of the day for not being that phantom version of ourselves that we in our hearts know we can never, ever be. We judge every situation, every encounter, every person we meet by that same standard too, that's the sad part of it: Immeasurable times a day, we judge every situation, encounter and person for being less than desirable, less than it SHOULD be!
And I really, really wonder; who started telling us that we should be something else than we are? Who started telling us that we should be someone else? That we are not enough? I can think of multiple worldwide very active organizations that presently keep spreading that message, but I am more interested in the roots of it; where did it all start? And most of all, when did WE start believing that voice? That message? That downright devastating, life-crushing lie?!
Many societies and ingenious cultures have stories about that fall.
The fall from grace, the fall from seeing ourselves as the divine, shining, loving beings that we are. To use the legend that is closes to most of us in western society, it's the fall in Eden. But I truly think the story we know today is an altered and watered out version fit to the agenda of a system wanting power over us. I don't think man fell because we were disobedient, I believe man fell when we started accepting other people having power over us!
That following my own heart is not enough for finding my way and truth!
That we are sinful, that we need a saviour, that we really should be something we are not, and that our entire lives should be spent in penance and a constant pilgrimage towards reaching those impossible standards those in power over us tell us we need to reach, to be something else that we are not.
That was the true fall.
The fall from seeing life as a beautiful, amazing place full of love and expansion
to instead hearing that we need to judge, compare and hold everything we experience, including our own person, up to an impossible standard.
This is how you keep that donkey running.
That's how you keep the control over it.
That's how yo make sure that that the donkey never, ever in a million years reaches that carrot. That it wants so badly. That will nourish it, still its hunger and give it the rest it so badly needs.
And the thing is, we act like that monkey.
We keep running like whipped animals, not stopping up saying, “Hey, wait a minute! There are plenty of carrots out here! Why don't I just sit under a tree and have some of them instead?! I don't actually enjoy running that much. And actually I want my carrot like, now! And come to think of it, there are always apples and grain as well. A whole world lies out there for me to savor and enjoy! So hey, mister whipper! Leave me alone! I quit!”
I watched the Skeleton key the other day.
Hence the title. Actually it was far too scary for me, I never ever watch horror movies or films that are too scary in general. So this film was not on my agenda, till my husband told me it wasn't that scary (wrong!!) and that he thought I might like it (Hmm...touchè). But it wasn't as much the film – even though I enjoyed the performance of the actors and found the story brilliant – it was the epiphany that hit me like a thunderbolt a few days later giving me chills all over my body for a whole minute. Because in that message, I found the skeleton-key to life!
In the film, a master hoodoo enchanter tries to put a spell on the main character, to swap her young body with his own to live longer. The main character, however, doesn't believe in hoodoo, and keeps telling people that “It doesn't work if you don't believe it!”. However in the end, a train of events has unfortunately made her a believer, and the enchanter has his way with her (and her body ;)) because she in the end believed in his power.
So. Do you see the irony of it, already? And the likeness to this 3D reality?
It doesn't work if you don't believe it!
The running after the carrot you can never reach.
The belief that you should be something else.
The belief that you are not good enough – that you are not enough!
Just stop believing this lie!
Because you are so enough your enoughness radiates around you, and the only reason why you can't see it, is because you have your trance-like glance on that evasive carrot all the time...like they want you too.
For a human being, you are perfect, you know? Because as for humans beings go, they never can be other than human! Really! Believe me! (or please do get in touch if you ever seen proof of the opposite)
So here's a thought.
Get your eyes off that darn carrot and out in the world instead, and discover the abundance, the beauty and all the ways you are loved, capable and intrinsically perfect.
Just like a human being that you are.
Because if you don't believe the lies, they wont work.
To your imperfect perfection