The Dark Night of the Soul (or Dark Night of the Ego, as I usually call it) is really a tremendously important time in your life for many reasons. I have listed 5 of the purposes I have found to be the most important ones:
1) You are pushed to start Trusting your Soul and your own intuition because of the isolation that this period always bring to you.
Have you cried out to the Universe but no one seems to listen? Have you reached out to people you trusted, people you were sure would be there for you, but no-one understood or took you seriously? This can be the most painful experience during your Dark Nigh. I know. I have been there. But there is a reason. And yes, the Universe is still loving and supportive, but you must understand that the greatest gift of all is for YOU to learn TRUSTING yourself! You MUST learn to notice and and respect what you feel and perceive before you can do any real work in life, or before you can feel any real safety in life!
This, in my opinion, is the primary and true meaning of this period. Learning to completely listen to and trust Yourself.
2) You are called to look at and Discard whatever it is in your life that doesn't work
I will liken it to sitting in a boat at sea in full storm. You have all your cargo (i.e: Beliefs, thought-systems and mind-sets that aren't true, or that simply don't work for you) with you. But after a while you realize that you need to throw overboard whatever it takes to keep you alive. So you start with one, then quickly another as you see your odds of reaching that beach are becoming more viable....
3) You are pushed to find uniques solutions and ways out for your predicament - as nothing else seem to work.
Ever felt that nothing works? You have read "everything", tried "everything" and you're still at square one?! Again - you are pushed to trust in yourself and listen to what your own body and heart tells you, as what ails you is never the exact same thing as anybody else.
4) Those solutions that help you OUT of your Dark Night, are the things you later will offer to the world as your Sacred Gifts!
The Dark Night may seem like an endless, chaotic, unproductive and barren night. But it is anything but that. If you can distract from the pain you experience, you will see that your Soul and Heart are working overtime to create solutions, find new roads and maps for your life. And this work takes tremendous energy and time. No wonder you are tired and deflated most of the time!
The Dark Night is probably one of, if not THE most productive time of your life, as you are experiencing the greatest motivator of all; Pain!
5) This time results in a Sacred Reset Button in your life, where you get to start again and build your life on things that are uniquely your own beliefs and findings.
This is what I call drawing your own map of your personal terrain, instead of using another persons map, trying to fashion your terrain after that map! (We all tried that, right?! Woah - it really sucks big time) And trust me when I say that finally standing there with your own map of your world, is such a huge relief when you tried year after year to follow a map that is nothing like the land you are walking!
The act of Drawing your Personal Map, is Sacred work indeed. It will make sense of your world - it will bring your solace and True joy.
Dare I say it now?
What I want to say and this truly come from my heart, is that I hope you some day will find that Your greatest pain is hidden in your greatest gift!
You know the saying "Blessings in disguise"?!
And then some.
That your Dark Night is really your Sacred Doulah, and if you follow her softly, acceptingly into the night, she will transform you and mold you into a likening of your authentic Self. Your Higher Self.
Because you have it all inside you.
You just need to be blinded to the world to be able to see in the Night. To be able to see the shining jewels that are fashioned under immense pressure in the darkest abyss.
But you need not fear - she will never let you go.
She just needs you to trust.
A little while more.